Since returning from Swaziland in Dec., we’re run into lots of people we like. And since they like us (what ARE they thinking?!), I guess the most natural question to ask is “What have you guys been up to?”
So, people we like, here is a thorough response.
We are in South Carolina and spending time with family. This being the longest time that Sean’s ‘been home’ since probably high school, we’re playing a lot of catch-up in relationships. Hanging out with the parents, occasionally The Brother, and getting a chance for Nicole to meet and Sean to reacquaint with lots of friends and church family. That part has been rather great. We spent last Sunday going to church, attending two cell groups (don’t worry I’m not trying to wrack up Holy Points by doing church 3 times!), and exploring a mountain biking trail with more friends. In short – relationships are alive and thriving with us in the ole SC.
When we’re not hanging out with friends or family, our lives look different than they ever have before. Mainly because Nicole does nothing, while Sean is busy. (More about Nicole later).
Sean’s stepdad has graciously allowed Sean into his workshop to build bed-swings. They’ve been diligently plaining boards, cutting, morticing, fitting, and sanding cypress into the beautiful masterpiece of hand-crafted bed-swings. Right now they’re building twin-size frames, but soon they’ll add full-size frames as well. This keeps Sean pretty busy, from around 8-5 every weekday and hopes to make 8 swings before we leave in early February. For a while, he also was helping to gut a rental property (also a Bob hook-up!) until the termites took over too much of the house and work was futile.
Nicole’s story is a bit more scattered and less directed. This season in my life is a season of “Learning to Be.” I’ve written countless other blogs about this, so please read those if you’re ready for some mind torture. (The Art of Doing Nothing, Shut Up and Listen) The pattern is intriguing to me. It started early August and has only grown in magnitude. I’m certain that in the past, I’ve been awful at ‘being still,’ and my life was chaotic and frantic as a result. Now, I try to move more mindfully through the rhythms of life, enjoying moments, drinking up joy, and relishing in the slow. Overall, it’s been a fun adventure of letting my days unfold. Instead of seeking to fill them, I just move through them – ever . . . so. . . slowly. Any given day of the week I can be caught doing this, in no particular order:
– sleeping til 8 ish
– eating some food
– going for a bike ride to run errands
– going for a bike ride for a workout
– going for a bike ride just for fun
– doing some yoga (see this blog)
– sending coupons and free book downloads to my unsuspecting sister and mom
– dragging myself into meditation (not something I ever find very easy, but always rewarding)
– offering to make lunch for Sean
– making lunch for myself because Sean’s not hungry
– clipping my toenails
– throwing away my toenail parts
– petting the dog
– surfing my emails, other blogs, facebook, craigslist, netflix, yoga journal for hours
– sighing, putting on some shoes and going to stand outside in the sun
– anxiously waiting at the door, as a puppy eager to play, while everyone files inside from their respective occupations
– sharing a few great hours of laughter, games, conversation, or movies
– brushing my teeth (gotta keep the hygiene and morale up!)
– going to sleep, snuggled up to the one I love
To be honest, somedays I’m frustrated, feel worthless, or just that I could be doing more. And then, I remember that each season of life has a rhythm. And perhaps the way to fully live is to find that rhythm and groove to it.
Right now, people we like, we’re grooving to this rhythm.
* Look for an upcoming blog about the next rhythm in the playlist of our lives. *